Here’s a short post about what to do when you’re feeling sad today (and it’s okay, everyone feels a little sad around the holidays).
I think everybody feels a little sad on Christmas Day. I know I do. Remembering childhood experiences: good and bad. But, it’s okay, because once you learn why, and once you know that everyone feels sad at some point on Christmas; it’ll be okay.
Concept: there’s only one person in charge of how you feel, and that person is you.
So why do you feel sad? It’s called nostalgia. And, it’s a normal part of the human imagination process. Definition of nostalgia: “pleasure and sadness that is caused by remembering something from the past and wishing that you could experience it again.”
You remember and long for the good old days. You remember family and friends that have long pasted and you know you can’t bring them back; it’s irreversible.
Nostalgia is NOT depression, even though it can lead to it at some point if you can’t shake the feels.
So, what do you do? Some therapist say that when you get these feelings, change your thought pattern. Try to concentrate on something entirely different and unrelated to the people, places or thing you long for.
“There is never any benefit in longing for what once was, but rather much joy in exploring what is. Focus on the present and think positively. This approach can help reduce some of your frustration and unhappiness as well as build your confidence to live in the spirit of the holiday season.” –Yahoo Answers
So, change your expectations, don’t just go with the flow. Don’t try to duplicate the past because you can’t. Don’t try to make it like it was because you won’t. And, if you’re nostalgic about what once was (or never was)—simply put your mind on something else: do something, get up, find something that can channel your energy, etc.
“Some degree of loneliness is normal during the holidays. There is nothing abnormal about having the “holiday blues,” which are more like a mood than any sort of lasting condition. Depression, anxiety, and other psychological symptoms are associated with the holidays because this season brings back memories of a happier time in our lives. Plan a holiday where loneliness doesn’t dominate.” —another quote from Yahoo Answers
At the end of the day, it’s all about you and what you can do to change your emotional state. Try to learn form your feeling: what triggered the mood? Was it a song, seeing someone, being in another place? If you can figure out what triggers your feelings of sadness during the holidays, you’ll be more able to decrease the sadness by decreasing the expectation.
Right NOW is the time we have. Not the past and not the future. All we have is NOW. If you’re feeling sad, it’s okay. But, get up and go for a walk. Drive around the block a few times if needed. If that’s not for you: make a list of what you like to do and go do it. —It won’t happen immediately, but over a short period of time you’ll start to feel better. And, you’ll have gained some valuable insight into next year.